Between the Sheets

You know the drill! Readers send me questions and I pick three to answer. Want your turn for some love from Ivy? Send me a love note.

Is faking an orgasm dishonest?
Hmm. This is a good question, and I’m not sure that I have the full answer here. Is it dishonest? Well, you ARE technically putting on an act. Will it hurt your partner? Probably not. But is it detrimental in the long run? Communication is so crucial in sex, and wouldn’t you rather have an HONEST O? While there is never anything wrong with an affected moan now and again (I’ve found that I can often trick myself into excitement), faking the orgasm is just applying a band-aid.

I’m a virgin, and this seems to freak guys out. They seem to think I’ll latch onto them forever if they pop my cherry. Should I lie about it to potential partners?
SERIOUSLY?! Wow. I would’ve thought that every man would’ve been fighting to be your conquestor; I would’ve assumed that they were lining up to be the first. But.. wow. I don’t know how to approach this one. In my own experience, I think that men have a reason to be timid about this. That’s a huge decision you’ve made (and kudos to you for sticking to it!), and they should, by all means, be respectful of it. How to not freak them out? Be honest. The good ones stick around.

I think my boyfriend is cheating on me. Should I confront him or snoop around for evidence first?
Ooooh. This is a messy one, and I welcome comments agreeing or refuting me. Alright, sister, here’s my two cents: if you think this, that’s all the evidence you need before bringing it up. Notice I didn’t say “confront” him; it should not be a confrontation. It should be a discussion. But a word to the wise: I have seen far too many women cry wolf too many times, and the man is going to think, “If I’m accused for this anyway, why not get something out of it?”

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