Monday Menage e Trois
You know the drill! Readers send me questions and I pick three to answer. Want your turn for some love from Ivy? Send me a love note.
I have a crush on a waitress at a restaurant. I want to ask her out, but I’m worried she gets hit on by lots of customers. How do I avoid coming across as a sleazy cliché?
Oooh, good question. I was a server for MANY years, and it was always a fine line. Truth? Be yourself. Visit often.. That sounds flippant, but if you become one of her “regulars” and she knows you, you’ve won a place in her heart. Oh.. and tip well.
I asked the woman I’ve been dating about her sexual history, but she refuses to talk about it. Should I be nervous? Is she obligated to tell me?
Is she obligated? No. Should she share anything medically crucial with you? Most definitely. Would I be wary of someone who is comfortable putting my health at risk so they can save themselves a tad of pride? Yes, I would. And I strongly suggest you rethink the committment level there. (And for GOD’S SAKE, use a condom.)
I recently went on a first date, during which I accidentally got hammered and threw up in a corner while she was watching. How can I make up for this awful first impression?
BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!! Oh..wow..okay..alright, I’m sorry. I’ve gotten most of that out of my system. But honey, I think you’d better let this one go. Unless she is into bodily functions on the first date, or she was blind and deaf, I think this one is a goner. (Please prove me wrong and get married, okay?)
menage e trois, sexual history, first impressions
April 3rd, 2007 at 7:04 pm
On number one, I’d have to agree with your advice. To put myself through college I was a bank teller. Eric used to come in every day to cash some little check and then the next to re-deposit it just to have an excuse to see me. We did wind up dating long enough for me to find out what a truly horrible kisser he was, and then it ended.