Breaking the golden rule, Part I
Tom says: “You’re driving me insane with your oblique references to a juicy story. Will you consider writing about this on your own site at least?”
Perhaps eventually I’ll completely submit to Tom (as my second Dom) and he can dictate all articles on this site. Perhaps hell will freeze over. Perhaps I’ll just indulge him once in a while–that’s more fun.
Within the comments of Confronting Things Head On, I confessed to my own naughty behavior years ago. As I mentioned before, there are truly some Worst Case Scenarios in the life of a swinger–falling in love or being in love with a play partner is definitely at the top of that list.
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I was the one to tell our play partners that our evening together would be the first and last time. I spoke with the gentleman, Paul (name changed), via chat.
J and I were not attracted to the woman. That was no one’s fault and we meant no offense. We apologized for the awkward situation that ensued that evening. We truly should have said something at the beginning. We had only best wishes for he and his partner.
We were certain we’d see them [at a party] sometime in the future and wanted to at least maintain respect for each other.
Paul agreed with maintaining respect. He paused for a moment. And then said that he had enjoyed himself despite the poor chemistry amidst the group of us. He had enjoyed the connection between he and I. He wanted to know if J and I were interested in playing with him separately. (Out of that sprang the confession that he and his partner, as “inviolate�? as they claimed to be, were just friends. Paul was married to someone else, though in the midst of a divorce, and he and his partner could play with whomever they chose.
I’d be lying if I didn’t say that I enjoyed the connection as well. He was a composer and I was drawn to our conversations together. So he and I began to converse as friends, exploring the possibility of a threesome together. I was at a place in my career that I had an abundance of free time to converse with him. We explored our lives as artists and with much passion between us—though only in text. We began sharing of our lives, hopes, and dreams. Our conversations led us to a place that was no longer friends, no longer swingers, but lovers.
The possibility of a threesome between Paul, J and I was still brewing. After all, I claimed, it was someone we are familiar with and someone that we had played with before. We were growing tired of meeting people with which there was no connection and were virtually assured that this would be a good fit as we had all been naked together before.
J and I kept discussing it. And, Paul and I kept talking:
“I will speak boldly now in that I will say forbidden things. Our hearts leapt into each other Saturday night… we understood the existence of something that is far more than we imagined…but, truthfully, have thirsted for, for as long as we have been aware of our longings for someone to ’see’ us…�?
“…our letters, correspondence, can belong to us, but if I were to ever see you again…it would need to be in J’s presence.�?
“…if I can spend all of the time I desire to immerse myself in your eyes, if I can be your lover with J present, if he understands the depth that you are able to feel me and he can love you for it then please let us three be together as well… my dear…my sweet…if J and I understand that we both adore you and wish to shower you w/ affection and love, and that I would never desire anything else, we should be in heaven!�?
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November 28th, 2006 at 9:46 am
A second Dom? My, what a robust appetite you have, my dear. I’m all ears for the rest of this, it sounds as if it can’t end well….
November 28th, 2006 at 8:47 pm
It took you this long to figure out that I have a robust appetite?
November 30th, 2006 at 3:15 pm
No, I could tell that much about you right away when you said you’re a swinger. It’s just that TWO of everything IS a little, well, greedy?
November 30th, 2006 at 3:17 pm
Decadent…not greedy. And, manageable…most assuredly.
November 30th, 2006 at 5:39 pm
I’m sure I could learn a thing or two from you.
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