Between the Sheets

During the first week in October, I’m devoting Between the Sheets to sexual abuse awareness, as many of you may know. This is a subject dear to my heart, simply because I think so many women and men out there are in abusive relationships and think that they are ok. It’s NOT ok. You can do better. You can be happy.

Sexual abuse, in my opinion, is any of the following:

*lying about sexual past that could put your current partner at risk

*sex without consent (rape)

*sexual acts that a person legitimately asks you to stop doing and you refuse

*sex involving children, even if they do consent

*distributing private pictures or videos without approval of all parties depicted

I’ve been a victim of some of these things. Sadly, I think most women have. Sexual abuse isn’t just rape or physical abuse during sex - it goes so much farther than that.

I’d like to note that I think there can be really healthy BDSM relationships. If you are going to participate, please, please, please have a “safe” word. This should be an obscure word other than “no” (because “no” slips out so easily) that you can use to tell your partner to stop. Even if someone else owns you, you are still a human being, and if you have a problem, you need to be able, for your own safety, to stop whatever is going on. Most people in a dom/sub relationship never have to use the safety word, but it’s good to have it just in case.

Also, I want to warn everyone about not knowing your partner’s sexual history. People are still dying from AIDS every single day. Please protect yourself.

Edit from Aurora: I’ve moved! Cum visit me at Between My Sheets!