Between the Sheets

So, missionary is way beyond you yet your running out of ideas to try with your partner? Are your creative juices feeling like they are running dry and you feel like your stuck dancing the tango for the rest of you life? Even the tango can get boring if you can’t find any new steps to learn. Don’t worry - it happens to the best of us. Sometimes you just need a little bit of inspiration. Something to get your imagination flowing.

There are a few ways to get some fresh ideas. One of them is through stories and movies and pictures. Yes, porn does have a place in your bedroom. If you’re not into the hardcore stuff you can still find some erotic movies and clips to suit your tastes. One of the places that caters to couples and has some great suggestions for movies for couples is Freddy and Eddie - they have a great selection of DVD’s that they have reviewed with couples in mind. If you browse through their site you’ll also find book reviews, toy reviews, and lots of other fun stuff for couples.

Another great way to get ideas for new things is by reading stories. Read them alone or together. There are many sites of erotic stories to choose from. One of which, of course, is my own Inky Blue Allusions. I’m working on getting some new serials/books going and there is new content going up in the membership sections. There are several free stories to enjoy as well as a free audio story (another great way to get ideas or just to share with a partner). There are many other great sites for stories as well, such as:

The Erotic Woman

Tit-elation

Beastor - the softer side

And let’s not forget toys! There are tons of toy sites available on the net so I’m not even going to go there. Or you can check out your local sex toy store. I promise, they aren’t usually as weird or strange as they are portrayed in the media. In fact, I knew of one just down the street from where I live that was run by this lady that was about 60! And she was just the sweetest thing!

And if you want some new positions? Try these! If any of you are success at any of those I’d love to hear about it!

Porn goes with a lot of things - date night, couples, masturbating, and pizza. Yes, now porn comes with pizza. At least it does if you live in Winnipeg, Manitoba, Canada!

Winnipeg is not known for very much. They lost their hockey team, the Jets, years ago. Their football, the Blue Bombers, is iffy at best, downtown is not the place you want to be. In fact, the thing they are probably most noted for was being the “murder capitol” of Canada a few years ago. But one guy got smart.

Entrepreneur, Corey Wildeman came up with the idea to put porn pics beneath his pizza pies and it is doing quite well. And it is interesting to find that it is not just the dudes that are getting it delivered - ladies are, too!

Before you get all excited, the pizza is available for delivery only and proof of I.D. is required before delivery. Personally, I think this is the coolest idea ever and I can’t wait to see how it is going go over.

Would you get porn delivered with your pizza?

I found a kinda cool new site that some of you might enjoy called Dear Sugar. Dear Sugar features advice on a wide range of subjects, including sex. This particular advice column is about Golden Showers. The person who wanted advice says her boyfriend wanted her to pee on him for his birthday.

Dear Sugar gave some pretty good advice. She suggested setting limitations and that’s always a good idea upon trying something new. Limitations are good and let your partner know where you stand. Sometimes people who are trying something new like to use a safeword. It’s a good idea to make it something you wouldn’t normally say but something you’ll easily remember.

It’s also a good idea to get familiar with your partner’s requests, in this case, golden showers. If they are asking you to give them a golden shower or they’re asking to give you one, you should be familiar with what you’re getting into. Find out what it involves to them, how they’d go about doing it. Then look it up on the internet. Read about it, watch some videos, maybe read a story or two (there are stories about everything!). Then search for some educational sites.

If after all this, you are still comfortable, you are under no obligation to go ahead with it. Never do anything that you aren’t comfortable with.

If you’re interested in golden showers, here are some starting point links for you:

Gay Water Sports and Golden Showers

Literotica Forum

Wiki After Dark - Give a Golden Shower ** This one especially recommended, good info!

Literotica Story - A Golden Moment

If there was one thing you were going to tell your partner that you need more or less of in bed, what would it be? Now, don’t say nothing because there’s always something.

For many women, they would likely say they’d like their partner to slow down. Pay more attention to other parts of her body - her hips, her belly, the undercurves or side curves of her breasts. Women have many, many erogenous zones (as do men) and they like to have new ones discovered. Slowing down is always a good thing to do at least once in awhile. Some women would prefer that you slow down more often than not but even women that are into harcore, serious, passionate fucking will enjoy a slow down on occassion.

There are many other things you might change:

~ faster sex
~ harder sex
~ softer sex
~ kinkier sex
~ spanking sex
~ etc.

Personally, I’m pretty happy about our sex. Actually, my partner is the best sex partner I’ve ever had and I don’t have anything to complain about. But I would want him to know that it doesn’t always have to take a long time. Sometimes, a quickie is awesome. And sometimes, I like to be “convinced” or should I say seduced. And sometimes, he can take charge and tell me what to do - and ya, I’ll likely do it! I think (hope) he actually knows this now after our recent quick and take charge session! Love ya, hon!

So, now that you’ve read this, go tell your partner what you want more or less of or what you would be interested in once in awhile. Talking and communicating are one of the biggest aphrodisiacs in a relationship!

You’ve had a great day and are in the mood; your partner isn’t…

Can you get them in the mood?

Well, considering we’ve only been together for a little bit more than a year and only married about a month, yes, I can get him in the mood.

If so, how?

Gentle tickling, rubbing his hand, a little lick to the ear … and if all that fails, I simply take off my clothes!

If not, do you take matters into your own hands? And what props (toys, books, movies) do you use?

If it was really urgent, yes, I’d take matters into my own hands. I haven’t come upon that yet, but I have a nice selection of toys (the bullet is quick and to the point) and well, I write erotica so my imagination and my fingers are the only things I really need. Sometimes I’m in the mood for porn though and I might use one of our subscription sites to find something interesting.

But like I said, so far, it hasn’t come to that!

If you don’t masturbate, what do you do with all that sexual energy?

I’d like pour it into house cleaning. But I’d have to need to get rid of some serious pent up energy to resort to that!

Whether or not you’ve pleasure yourself, do you resent, ‘keep score’ or otherwise negatively note that your partner wouldn’t please you?

I hope that neither of us will ever get to that point. In my previous relationship it got to that for him and the more he kept score the tighter I closed my legs. Relationships aren’t about keeping score. I think if either couple begins to keep score it’s time to start talking.

Ok guys - this one is for you.

FACT: Girls love to have cunninglingus performed on them
MYTH: Enthusiasm makes up for talent

The fact of the matter is guys, if you’re going down, you’d better get familiar with a woman’s anatomy. Enthusiam does not make up for it. In fact, sometimes being too enthusiastic is bad. There is no muching in carpet munching.

If you want to do a better job of going down here are a few things to remember:

~ Every woman is different so just because your last girl friend liked to be tongue fucked doesn’t mean your current one will.
~ It’s better to start slow and build up to something stronger if she likes it. If you start off too hard she’s just going to get annoyed.
~ There is more to a woman’s genitals than her clit. The labia, the entrance to her vagina, and even then urethra can be very sensitive. You’ll have to do some exploring to find out what works for her.
~ Finger play or nipple play when combined with cunninglingus can be exciting, too. You know how you like to have your balls or “taint” played with while she’s giving you head? She might like having her nipples played with, her pussy, or even her ass. Try all three and see what happens.
~ You can use your tongue in different ways - go fast, slow, make it flat or pointy.
~ Her clit has as many nerve endings as your cock - more actually - but in a condensed space. So go easy on it. She might like some gentle pinching but too rough is never good. Unless you’re into pleasure and pain in which case go to town - she’ll let you know where her limits are.

Above all, enjoy yourself. If you’re only doing it because you know you ain’t getting any if you don’t, it will show and she won’t enjoy herself.

So, what did y’all think of that love letter? It completely blew me away. I can’t tell ya how much I love that man.

We’ve been big on letters from the beginning of our relationship. This is one of the letters that I wrote for him before we were living together:

My Dearest,

I couldn’t help thinking about you last night. Our conversations on the phone throughout the day were making me crazy. I swore I was going to stay away from the toys and save myself for you but I broke.

I started with my fingers, pulling at my nipples, gently rubbing my clit. My fingers dipped inside my pussy and I was so wet thinking about you and that glorious tongue and the way you finger fuck me.But it wasn’t enough.

I want the feeling you give me when you are hard inside me. I can’t duplicate that with any toy but my imagination helps. Out came that black vibrator and my mini-bullet. A little lube and I was set to go.

I rubbed the bullet over my clit for a few moments and thought of your tongue and how you flicker it against me. Then I lubed up that vibrator . . . and pointed it straight at my little brown rose bud.

I balanced under my knees, imagining myself straddling you in a reverse cowboy. I reached between my legs to position myself over that cock and kept the image of your cock at the ready at my back door in my mind. Slowly, ever so slowly, I began to lower my clenched hole over the tip of that cock.

I took more and more inside my dark tunnel until it was as deep inside me as I could get it.Then, as I began to ride it, thinking about how your hips would rock as you pushed your way inside me, I turned on the bullet. I could almost feel your finger dip inside my cunt and play over my hard nub. My mind screamed, “Fuck me, fuck my ass baby!” and I rode that cock a little harder.

It didn’t take long before my muscles began to clench around the tool in my ass. Even though there was no one there to hear me, I was moaning out loud, “Yes, baby, yes. Give it all to me!” and wondering if any of my neighbors lurked outside my bedroom window. As I remembered the heat of the fullness of your hand smacking my bottom with increasing firmness, I came hard, muscles convulsing and sucking that cock deeper into my cavern.

I miss you so much baby.

June 27, 2007

Hello all. If you are reading this then my wife has in fact given me permission to publicly share my love for her. It is my hope that on the 27th of each month she will allow me to continue to do so as we move forward with our lives. It is with great pride that I write the following:

Dearest Autumn,

Today marks exactly one month since the day that we were married. For me at least, it gives me a chance to understand just how lucky I am. I have been blessed with the most caring and wonderful woman in the world and fulfilled a long time dream of becoming a father – well, at the very least a stepfather.

I want you to know that since our wedding day my love for you has only become deeper. Each day brings me a new insight into how much I know you care for me. I realize that I am not the perfect man because nobody is. However, when we are together it feels like nothing can ever stop us from achieving anything we put our minds to. Your support when I am not quite one hundred percent means more than you can possibly fathom. I see in your eyes the hurt when I am sad and the joy when I am happy. Please don’t ever stop believing in me.

I was told by many a friend before our marriage that things would change in a big way once we actually had those rings on our fingers. They were right but not in the way that they imagined. I am not a fool thinking that everyday of our lives will be perfect – for we have already had a few trying times. The changes since we have been married have been surprising but only for the better. It seems that during the last month you have shown even more love and passion that at any time before in our lives.

Our honeymoon was such an absolute joy. Yes, the sex was out of this world and your kinky side kicked into overdrive, but our lives are that and so much more. Your special “honeymoon sex” has never really ended because it was really just an extension of who you always were. I think our time alone gave us the opportunity to grow as a couple and for those moments I will be forever grateful. I know there is so much more ahead of us but I never want to forget what a wonderful time we had on our honeymoon.

So in case you need reassurance, I would not have changed this past month for anything – both the good and bad, as I have learned from them both. You never cease to amaze me and I need you to know that I will always give you everything I have in order to make our life together the best that it can possibly be. I am certain that there may have been times when you felt a little overwhelmed but remember that I will always strive for what is best for our family.

So to state things in the simplest of terms – I love my wife. I love you.

Forever yours,
Zeke.

There is something that is just so erotic about touch. Lots of people forget to slow down and just enjoy touching each other. The slow gentle caress of a lover’s hand as it moves over your body is so sensuous.

Sometimes touching someone can discover ticklish zones but that’s not a bad thing. Tickling is very sensuous and erotic as well. A light tickling wakes up the nerve endings which make you more prone to becoming aroused. This tends to be very true in women especially, but lots of guys like it, too.

Spend some time together the next time you are alone and see who caves first. Run your fingers up the inner curve of her waist, around the swell of her breast (don’t touch her nipples yet though), past her armpit, and then down her arm. Let your palm caress her face and then work your way back down again. Go all the way down to the tips of her toes. You’ll soon have her squirming in your arms. Girls, try this on your guy, too. You might have to tie him up first but what the hell right?

Touching is one of the most intimate things you can do. Even if you don’t have time or energy to make love or get into a raunch sex session, touching each other in a sincere and meaningful way is a great way to show your partner how much you care and help them relax at the same time.

And guys, if your lady doesn’t seem so “in the mood” lately, try this on her but don’t let it turn into sex. She might want it to but make it clear that you want her to “get a good nights rest and just relax.” It’s not about you, it’s about her. Do this 3 or so times during a weekend and it will be almost a sure thing that on the weekend when the kids get to bed she’ll be almost ready to jump you!

I met her at work. She was the hottest thing I’d ever seen in a standard waitress uniform and she brought back all these memories from my youth. I hadn’t been with another woman in years and I was married now but man oh man, this girl drove me wild!

It wasn’t hard to get to know her - restaurant people are pretty open about their lives. After about a week of talking between serving tables I decided she was straight and got over it. Was I ever wrong.

Well, not totally wrong. She didn’t really know she liked girls. Not at that point. But I guess something happened to awaken her desire for women in her. I like to think it was me. We went out to the bars and out dancing a couple times. Each time she got friendlier and friendlier. Dancing closer. Touching. And then she got downright flirtatious.

One night we were waiting for a cab and she was being very touchy feely. I couldn’t stand it anymore so I pulled her into a back alley, pushed her against the wall and kissed her slowly and lingeringly. When we came up for breath, she looked into my eyes and said, “I thought you were never going to do that!”

Well, needless to say, we only needed the cab driver to make one stop that night. When we got inside her door she practically jumped me and almost ripped my clothes off. Her mouth was at my breast and I thought she was going to completely lose it. I had to slow this girl down!

I pulled her arms behind her back and directed her into her bedroom. I pushed her onto the bed and straddled her.

“Listen my love. Part of the pleasure of girl love is taking all the time you need. Now I know you’d like to find out what it’s all about right now but I’m in no particular rush and we’re going to take it slow. Understand?”

She nodded her head. I released her hands and began to remove my clothes and then hers. And then we took it slow. My hands took lots of time waking up every part of her body. Then my mouth discovered all of her erogenous zones. Then I showed her the pleasures of a girl’s tongue.

She writhed under my mouth and begged me to let her come. But when she got too heated up, I just backed up a few steps. And forward and backwards I went until I knew she was ready. Then, with my tongue on her clit, barely moving in little cirlcles, I slid two fingers inside her. She was so incredibally wet. And when I found her g-spot, she arched her back in surprised and sucked her breath in. I could feel her quivering under my touch and my tongue already so I put just the right amount of pressure on her.

Then, she exploded in an orgasm that turned her into a squirting, shuddering machine. Her body went ballistic under my mouth but I kept a firm grip on her, working her down until she was gasping for breath.

“I never knew those things happened in real life,” she said when she could speak.

I showed her a lot of things that could happen in real life if one had the knowledge. My husband is eager to meet her but I think I’ll keep her to myself for a little while at least!

What kind of dreams do you have? Do you dream about sex? Do you remember your dreams? Or do you have nightmares? According to a Canadian Study women dream about sex about the same as men do - about 8% of their dreams. But the similarities stop there. While men tend to dream about threesomes and sex in public places, women tend to dream about celebrities and other famous people or lovers from their past. Obviously they didn’t have some of the female sex bloggers in their sample!

I dream about sex but not as often as I used to. When I wasn’t getting it or when I wasn’t satisfied I used to dream about sex quite often. And it was rarely a sweet and romantic dream (if ever). It was usually a pretty hardcore, gang bang, backdoor action dream. I dreamt about a celebrity once - 50 Cent (who I don’t even really like much). But I have had dreams more intense that I’d ever imagined they could be. Once or twice I had sexual dreams that were so intense that I had an orgasm that woke me up, shuddering and shaking.

Dreams sometimes do mean things but more often than not they are just your subconscious mind getting a little release. Release is good!

Sweet and naughty dreams everyone!

My husband and I have found a new naughty activity to participate in together - watching live webcam shows. I’d never seen one before so I was quite fascinated by it. The web cam shows we’ve been watching have quite a variety. There are BBW’s, young girls, and women that do everything including live sex. And you can talk to them!

Each live web cam show (on the one we watch) has a chat option. You can just sit there and watch but you can also talk to her via chat - tell her how gorgeous she is, how hot she’s making you, or make a request. But if you make a request be sure to say please and don’t ask fifteen times or you’ll get booted!

I’m not sure what my husband likes more:

~ the fact that I’m even watching it with him

~ actually watching the cams

~ watching me get all worked up as we watch the cams

~ or when I talk to the cam girls

Whatever it is he loves it and so do I. We have a new late night/no kids at home hobby! Can you call watching live web cam sex shows a hobby?

I found this cool little vibe the other day and I am just dying to get me one of these. Isn’t it adorable? Something you can carry around in your purse and no one would ever be the wiser.

This would be great for those opportunities when you see the hot guy (or girl) and get all worked up and just need to get rid of some tension. This baby is supposed to be almost silent so you could even use it in the office at work if you want to. And don’t tell me none of you have ever gotten off on a little office masturbation while you’re at work! I know you have.

This could also be fun to tease your guy with. Come up to him when you’re in the mood but he needs a little convincing. Kiss his neck, his ears - whatever turns him on - and then slide your hand between his legs with this hidden in your palm. He’ll never be expecting it when you turn this baby on and let it hum on his cock or his balls through his pants. If that doesn’t get him interested nothing will.

When he saw her walk into the bar - how long ago was it? 14 years now? - that first time his jaw hung low and he felt a stirring in his groin that he hadn’t felt in a long time. She wasn’t like the other girls at his university or like the girls that flirted with him at the restaurant where he waited tables. She was - more.

As she walked past him her hips swayed with confidence that girls his own age didn’t have. They were either too shy or they overcompensated by acting all trashy. Not this woman (because she was no girl). She didn’t need to flirt, or to wear a low cut shirt or jeans that were a size to small. She wore a skirt that skimmed her full hips, knee high boots with a heel that was sexy but didn’t look like it was going to kill her, and a top that flowed over the mound of flesh on her chest without calling great attention to it. But she looked amazing. He couldn’t tell if it was the way she walked, the natural grace of her movements or the subtle smile that played upon her lips.

She stayed for only an hour and he watched her the entire time. Girls his own age kept distracting him though and pulling him into their grasp and when he looked back to find her she was gone. Or so he thought.

Fifteen minutes after he thought she’d gone home, he turned to find her standing beside him. The girls that sat near him gave her evil looks but she didn’t seem to notice. She slipped a hand into his and then left. All that remained was a folded piece of paper. He stared after her in amazement for what seemed like forever before he realized it was even there. Of course, it was her name and phone number.

Now, he was 35 and she was 41. They’d been married for 13 of those years. His friends thought he was nuts but not after they got to know her. Then they were jealous. Because not only was she the perfect vision of femininity, but she was genuinely a good person.

And when he was with her late at night, with his hands on her breasts, her moans in his ear, and her heat encompassing the firmness of his shaft - he remembered that first night. And he thanked her for being in his life.

There’s something about a guy with confidence that is sexier than anything else. I mean, it doesn’t hurt if he looks like the guy above, but confident men are hot.

A guy who is confident can make you believe. He makes you believe that he can pleasure you. He makes you believe that he could be the one. He makes you believe in all the possibilities.

Of course, sometimes that turns out to be a total sham. He’s all confidence and no action. But you won’t know until you try right? Personally, I think these guys are more fun to flirt with than anything. If you keep it to flirting, there’s no disappointments. And they are great fun to fantasize about too!

Then, on the other side of the coin, when a guy has confidence coupled with some real qualities, like a sense of humor, sensitivity, and a genuine personality - whoa - you got yourself a winner! Hang on to that one baby because he’s a keeper!