Between the Sheets

I read this article at Nerve.com today. The author said about blogging, “When it’s handed to me — and to the rest of the world — it’s hard to find it particularly appealing.” And I was kind of surprised.

I like that fact that you can find out (sometimes, because let’s face it, not everyone has a blog, although it seems like it sometimes) things about a person before you get emotionally invested. I like that I can find out if he’s got a fetish for animal-love before I actually start to like a guy. And I like that I can find out that he’s really close to his mom.

I also like the fact that he can find out about me and if he still shows up it means that he’s ready to deal with the fact that I have a couple of kids, and write porn/erotica, and am a little obsessive about oral sex. In fact, my fiance read my blog on Windows Live something or other before he met me. At the time I’d done a 101 things about me blog entry that told a lot of things about me that might have scared other people. And he still came to our first date. In fact, he constantly amazed by saying things like, “Oh right - the shrimp and steak,” before I even ordered. “How did you know?” I’d ask. “It was on your 101.” Right. Ok, it was a little unsettling at first, but after the first few times it was flattering. I mean, this man actually took the time to pay attention to every single one of those 101 things about me and remembered them when it was appropriate!

So, is blogging and dating counterproductive? I don’t think so. Personally, I think that if you can’t read someone’s blog and still be willing to see them then you likely wouldn’t have lasted past the first few dates anyway. And, on top of that, it’s important to remember that just because you read someone’s blog doesn’t mean you know them. It just means that you know about the online personality that they’ve chosen to reveal. It’s only a partial picture.

You didn’t really think that I was all about sex just because that’s what I write about here … did you?