Between the Sheets

Most of you will know what I’m talking about here. Bed buddies are the new (or not so new depending on where you’re coming from) non-relationship. In a world where careers are the focus and time is minimal, many young singles today just don’t have the time a “real” relationship requires or are not willing to put time into a relationship. But we still have sexual needs. In a society where sexual freedom has become the norm for many (and I know that there are many who do not choose that norm in their lives) bed buddies are one of the options.

A bed buddy can be your best friend or just a friend that you feel comfortable with. The pluses are sexual fulfillment in a non-committed but assumedly safe manner. Usually, a bed buddy is someone that you feel comfortable with but doesn’t quite fit your long term requirements. I know some people who have continued in this kind of relationship for years. Sometimes it only lasts for a couple months. People adapt it to best fit their needs. The assumption is that because both parties are being honest with each other, no one gets hurt.

But there are times when a bed buddy becomes more than that to one of the parties. Then what? Do you try to turn the relationship into something more? Do you cut your losses? Or do you continue and hope the feelings go away?

In the past I’ve had a few bed buddy relationships. I thought I could handle it. And for a time I did. But after a couple months I always started wanting more. I may not have wanted more from that specific person, but I eventually realized that that just wasn’t the type of relationship I wanted. I gave up bed buddies for good.

I’d like to know what you all feel about this. Have you been in this type of relationship? Has it worked? Did anyone get hurt? How did it end? Or is it still ongoing?